Purity in a dating relationship
Many single Christians have had past sexual experiences that did not deliver the outcome they had hoped for, and wound up with a sense of remorse and loss.Is there a way to go back and retrieve what was lost through these sexual encounters? How do I stay pure with all of today’s modern pressures?In reality, it boils down to two main concepts: Lead Us Not into Temptation Remember that line from the Our Father?Once they’re in your house they might not injure anyone.But if you love your sister—and yourself—why would you take that chance?But holiness—or purity, as they are essentially the same—does not come naturally to our human hearts!The hyper-sexualized culture in which we live is constantly sending us messages about dating.
To walk in purity, you will need to continually assess your progress and ask one another how you can help maintain holiness. If your boyfriend says he can’t come to your apartment anymore because it’s too tempting to compromise, celebrate the fact that he wants to walk in purity!Then you open your windows, garage door, front door, back door, doggy door, and the skylight on the roof.True, the dogs might not enter your house right away, but there’s a pretty good chance that eventually they will.In faith, you have become part of Christ's body, and it is Christ through the Church, who must give you permission to join His body to another body. The place where the Church confers that privilege on you is the wedding; weddings are specific acts that grant us permission to have sex with one person. The New Testament makes clear that sex beyond the boundaries of marriage — the boundaries of communally granted sanction of sex — is simply off limits.To have sex outside those bounds is to commit an offense against the body.